sorry im really off topic, but anyone has ever left this addiction? this ruined my past relationship with women and i have simply no idea how i would even find such gf thats into this very niche thing
The other guys already said the main thing, but i’ll add this: if you’re deep into some extreme porn niche, it’s not gonna work with normal women. Porn completely fucks expectations. Even when a girl is “into anal,” it’s still on a totally different level than what porn shows. Reality never matches the fantasy. I’ve tried it myself.
Most women live normal adult lives: jobs, responsibilities, independence. They’re not gonna build their sex life around some niche fetish. That’s just not how real life works.
Realistically, your highest chance is women already in the scene; pornstar, onlyfans girls, escorts. And even then, most of them don’t enjoy it. It’s money and performance, not desire. You don’t want to seriously date those women anyway, but it’s still more realistic than expecting a normal girl to be into this.
Older women or mothers might already have it, but they’re ashamed of it. They don’t see it as sexual, more like an injury. Most women don’t even know men find this pleasurable, and if they do, it’s usually disgusting to them. They’d need a complete mindset shift to even consider it.
The only other scenario i could imagine is some extreme case where the man is on a future-level status: insane money, woman doesn’t work, fully dependent. Then yeah, if she’s deeply in love, she might agree to things even if it’s bad for her. But that’s rare as hell.
Bottom line: this doesn’t work in normal dating. Either the woman is already in the scene, or the man is completely extraordinary. Otherwise, porn needs to be separated from real life, or it’ll keep ruining relationships.